I’ve decided to take a different approach to this blog – since I have been getting here SO rarely to write. The reason is that I have a million topics in my mind at any given moment and I can’t decide what to write or feel like I have enough time to do the topic justice.
Out the window with all that. I’m just going to stop here when the mood strikes – and write what brief thought is on my mind at that moment. Over time, some kind of overall understanding will coalesce.
Right now: what’s on my mind is something my husband told me this weekend. Words I never expected to hear him utter since ordinarily he puts up a fight to prove that he does as much or more as me around the house and for the family.
He admitted that I do twice as much as him to keep the family rolling smoothly.
I couldn’t believe my ears, but I saw the sincerety in his face. I hope he will realize how much that means to me, and that giving credit and showing appreciation for all the little things I am doing and keeping track of every day really has a huge effect on me. Here I am 3 days later still thinking about it and grasping onto it as proof that despite my feeling “not good enough” so often, I really DO accomplish a lot. And someone notices.
[It does bear mentioning that my 5-year-old daughter notices all the time. Her affirmations help so much too. How cute is it to hear your daughter say, when pretending to be mother to her baby doll, "It's hard work to be a mommy." And when I ask her why, she mentions several of the things she sees that I must do to take care of her, her baby sister, and the house. So incredibly insightful for a kindergartner, and even as a preschooler she said it.]
Filed under: husband, marriage, wahm, work-at-home mom | Tagged: appreciation, childcare, chores, housework, validation
When she and I last spoke, I found your oldest is a VERY insightful child!